After seeing and hearing throngs of instances of good marriages n not-so-good ones ending up in divorces, some amicable, some bitter, one can't help wondering why people get married...
For the idealistic person with the romantic inclinations, is it the notion of living happily ever after with that soul-mate of your life, and having littles Joes and Janes to "complete" one's existence in this topsy-turvy life process? To feel the sense of contentment and fulfillment when one's offsprings progress from O-levels to A-levels to good scholarships and rewarding career, culminating in the formation of another generation of happily-ever-after family? But what of the niggling quarrels and differences? The need to live a life that is constantly compromised because there is always someone more important and matters more than yourself? Is living a life like this worthwhile?
For one who threads the filial piety line, is it to set the parents' minds at ease that they no longer have to worry so much because there is now someone that will take over the support and care-giving role? But does not doing so at the same time inevitably giving our parents a sign that they are no longer "useful" in our lives, and hence cause a loss of purpose in life for them? Then perhaps for some, having grandchildren may provide another excitement on the retired lifestyle of one's parents, giving them something to look forward to every day, to see their grandchildren and bring them out to gai gai?
What of the physical and emotional attachments in a marriage? Man, and woman too, are objects of desire and lust, so perhaps marrying provides an avenue for legitimate and morally correct fulfillment of pleasures of the flesh, but really, does "legitimate and morally correct" rank very high in importance these days? Duh!!!
Which i guess comes to the emotional attachment part. I guess one will always have someone in mind whom you want to share your thoughts and deepest emotions with, whether its about something seen, heard, felt or imagined. Someone whom when you see a shooting star streak across the sky, you would think of and use that one-wish-will-come-true belief to wish the best for. Someone whom whenever you danced, you would wish was the one you are waltzing to the music with. Someone whom made every date feel like an exhilarating first date, and when it ended left you looking forward to the next one.
But what if that someone's someone does not happen to be you? (I digress...) So after marriage, if all the above starts diminishing, does that signal the end of the marriage?
